What does a funeral director actually do? Becky Horton describes a ‘typical’ day.

September 28, 2017   //   1 Comment

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honourable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well’. Although I might not agree with everything he thought, I believe this quote to be very relevant to the Funeral Director however minus the happy bit, we should all be happy.

Every day I wake up looking forward to helping and meeting people from all different walks of life; the majority of our working day is dealing with the living.  After a 3 am call out, the day starts with speaking to the team ensuring we all know the day’s tasks ahead, however these can change at the ring of a phone, as one thing none of us know in life is when we are going to pass away.

Later on, a family arrives who has a loved one resting with us. I welcome them with a friendly face, offer them a drink and proceed to arrange the funeral with them, ensuring that they feel supported and know once they leave we will be able to arrange everything they need.  Blouse, hat and gloves straight on afterwards and I’m ready to conduct the funeral of a gent we have been looking after for the past week. This is the day the family have been dreading, but by just arriving on time with a gentle smile and a warm heart, we can make it that little bit easier to bear.

Back to the office after dropping the family at the wake, I change quickly and dress the lady we arranged this morning after we brought her back from hospital. The day is finished by crafting some ashes memorial jewellery for a family we looked after a few weeks ago: a necklace for the bride to be in a couple of weeks, a special reminder of Grandad on her big day.

I can’t say this is the typical day of a Funeral Director as nothing in the life of a Funeral Director is ever typical. From motorbike hearses with smiles and laughter one day, to dove releases with sadness and tears the next. The only thing that is typical is the care, compassion and professionalism of your local Funeral Director and I wouldn’t change my job for the world.

Becky Horton, Horton Funeral Directors, Hull

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